In my last post I talked much about how to beat impossibility by being less pessimistic. I really believed it helped a lot of people to stand for something rather than settle for less.
However, certain issues raised by some readers subjected me to write about the fear of the past and the uncertainty behind the future.
Today, I will talk more on how to bury the past and face your future. However, let me first share a quote by Anuraq Prakash Ray.
“Leave your bad past memories behind or it can destroy your future. Live life for tomorrow, not for yesterday ”
Oh yes! the past wasn’t good, it wasn’t something you were proud off. You made a lot of mistakes and those thoughts keeps creeping back into your present which you are sure is going to affect your future.
Those words of how you weren’t good enough from different angles keeps slapping you on the face…
Yes it happened, it was in the past!
Yes you can’t change it!
However, you can correct it. By correcting it, you are ensuring that it does not affect the great future ahead of you.
There are things that hurt you badly, those decisions you weren’t proud off and you are still feeling bitter about them…
The fact, however is that all these things happened and they are probably bound to reflect in your face. Especially when you try to pick up yourself and do something good and someone suddenly slams your past to your face. Yes, I know how that feels. I have been there before. It sucks. You certainly feel like the worst person on earth.
But the truth is, you are not the worst but rather a victim. Rick Warren once said
” we are products of our pasts but we don’t have to be prisoners to them”.
See, it’s okay to be angry and sometimes depressed but you need to know that these feelings wouldn’t do any good for your future. You just have to learn from them and not dwell in them. Ralph Blum said,
“The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings “.
I am sure you won’t realize this if you wallow in it.
It’s okay to be afraid. It is not a taboo. Fear is not a sign weakness. It is a constant feeling in life. It becomes a weakness when you can’t control it. Fear doesn’t mean you are a coward, it only means that you must be willing to feel it and still do what you have to do anyway.
You need to get up, dust yourself and move. Focus on the next thing to do instead of worrying about what went wrong. A preacher once said that worrying is like a rocking chair, it keeps you busy but takes you nowhere.
Yes! The future is so bright. Don’t believe anything otherwise anyone tells you. “Believe that God’s plan for your life is excellent and the best news is that His not going to look at your past”
So why wallow in self pity and prevent yourself from launching into destiny?
“No matter what happened before, it all worked to bring you to this moment and it’s your decision to make everything new right now!”
If you look back too much, you will soon be heading that way. Your destiny and callvij life is always forward, never backward. You are more likely to make mistakes when you act only on past experiences. Rosy thoughts about the future can’t exist when your mind is full of the blues of the past.
Let me dare your thoughts with these questions:
‘Are you doing what you really believe you should be doing at this point in your life? or have you allowed fear and lack of confidence to prevent you from stepping out into new things? or are still stuck in your past thinking about the old things?‘🙂
The past is always going to be the way it was. Stop trying to change it but do more to learn and move on. Your future contains more happiness than any past you can remember. Believe that the best is yet to come. In the words of Hubert Humphrey,
‘The good old days were never that good, believe me. The good new days are today, and better days are coming tomorrow. Our greatest songs are still unsung.’
When you dwell on the past at the expense of the future, you stop growing and start dying. No matter why things are changing, you need to be able to let go and move on. Whether it’s the death of a loved one, a painful breakup, a business failure, or a treacherous betrayal, holding onto past pain and resentment will only hold you back.
Steve Maraboli once said that,
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
I agree with Jack Kornfield statement that to let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clingings and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit.
Take Alyson Noel’s advice,
“The only thing a person can ever really do is keep moving forward. Take that big leap forward without hesitation, without once looking back. Simply forget the past and forge toward the future.”
Bury your past and Face the future by avoiding lengthy thinking on the past. Your past doesn’t equal your future. Ensure you summon the courage to move forward today.
Opeyemi is a Motivational Writer and Editor. She holds a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Bowen University.
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