As l glanced at my schedule for the coming weekend, I was shocked at how busy it is! Three wedding, a well research article to be submitted to my Editor-in-chief, one public speaking engagement dominate the landscape and errands longer than anyone would face. All these are supposed to be my day off!
The Bible says that children are inheritance from God, and blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. Not only have I found that to be true, but I have also discovered that the fuller my quiver gets (I’ve got two arrows), the harder it is to find the time to give each child the attention he/she needs and deserves.
Can you relate to this? If so, here are five things you should do to develop good relationships with your kids and make them happy in spite of hectic schedule:
1. Pray Together
Prayer is important for families. You cannot do anything without prayers. Whether at meal times, before you go to bed or when you wake up, it is important. A family that prays together stays together!
2. Be Available
Our children need to know that they are important to us. Your children should have permission to call you on your cell phone or at work anytime if they need to. You will find out the best quality time at night when your kids go to sleep and you just lay down next to them and talk about their day.
3. Put Their Activities Into Your Schedule
Try and get involved in your kids’ practices, games, school assemblies, and other important events that you don’t want to miss. You may not be able to make all of them, but as much as possible, be there to cheer them on. And if you can’t be there, remind them of their big day so that you can all talk about it later.
4. Eat Together
As much as your schedules allow, try to have a meal together as a family. This is one of the greatest times to reconnect and recharge after a busy day. It is your chance to celebrate victories, to help each other through the tough times, to do a short devotional, laugh, to cry (if need be), to tell a joke, to hear a story, to sit and feel part of a family.
5. Allow For Success and Failure
Of course, if you really want to bolster your child’s self-esteem, focus less on compliments and more on providing him with ample opportunities to learn new skills. Mastery, not praise, is the real self-esteem builder.
The great mistake good parents make is doing too much for their children. While it can be difficult to watch our kids struggle, they will never know the thrill of mastery unless we allow them to risk failure. Few skills are perfected on a first try. It is through practice that children achieve mastery. And through repeated experiences of mastery, they develop the can-do attitude that let them approach future challenges with the zest and optimism that are central to a happy life.
Our children learn by our example what is important in life. Let us please, pray, and trust in God for a better home front which lead to a better country.
ADEOGUN KAYODE JOSEPH
Kayode is a seasoned Motivational Speaker, a Business Consultant, a Researcher, and a Commentator on Public Affairs.
Formerly a civil servant in Ekiti state. Adeogun attended The Federal Polytechnic Ado Ekiti where he received National Diploma in Business Administration and Management
A graduate of University of Ado Ekiti (UNAD) now Ekiti State University (EKSU) where he obtained B.sc (Hons) degree in Accounting.
He bagged Post Graduate Diploma in Journalism in National Institute of Journalism. A member of Chartered Institute of Strategic Management of Nigeria. He bagged a correspondence certificate course on Life and Business Coaching at School of Coaching Mastery. Hence, he is a certified life coach.
As a Motivational Speaker, he has attended and delivered papers at different seminars, workshops, summit and conferences. He has written several articles and essays which has been widely read. He has been read on radio talkshows and television programs in Lagos and Ekiti states.
A loving and devoted father. Adeogun Kayode, is a football enthusiast. He is happily married to Mrs Joyce Adeogun-Enakirehri- a graduate of Business Administration and Management from Ekiti State University. They are blessed with two children.
He markets individual, corporate and national character using client-specific strategies.
He is a Senior Correspondent to Glow Magazine. He is also a Contributing Writer for two newspapers and four magazines in Nigeria.
He loves tough calls. He loves to break new grounds. He is a Public Relation Officer. He is a versatile motivational speaker and a prolific and erudite writer.
He is the CEO of JOBA Consult an acronym coined from the first two letters of his two children- Joanna and Barnabas. JOBA Consult is established to leverage lives…
He conducts workshops and seminars and lectures on success, leadership and personal development.
He enjoys reading, swimming and singing as recreational activities.
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